Another cheesy blog post about being in love :)

I know that blog posts are supposed to be published regularly... However, it seems to me that inspiration does not come to you when you want it and just because you need to finish your new blog post, but comes to you when you are in the middle of thousand exams and your brain requires thinking about something else rather than studying :) :D Anyhow...

...These days, I am being lucky enough, to be directly connected to the very source of most of the inspiration in this world, and that is the state of being in love. (And it is the very middle of the exam period. So.... I am practically persuaded to write ) :) 

It is funny how, when you are not possessed by this wild blind spirit that we tend to simply call "love", you can think of anything interesting to write about... but once you are in love, that special person of yours is only thing you can think about. I wake up in the morning joyous, and whatever I plan to do during the day is instantly beautified, way in advance just because i feel that I have been given the wings, power, strength, magical wand to do whatever i want to do :) I have that cute pair of green eyes to think about, and whatever I do, it seems that the pure thought of them casts a spell on me in such a way that makes me fall in love with the rest of the world as well. 

And, at the risk of sounding completely annoying to all of those who are struggling through some kind of tough emotional period, I will once again write about the beauty of believing in it. :)

The truth is, one can never know how temporary this manic state of love can be, because it tends to come and go...(unless is what we so often call "real", "right", but no one can really define those adjectives... ) ...So many times we think that we have found what's right, and it turns out to be a thousand times more wrong than right... Although sometimes love ends abruptly and brings pain and anger, I think that no love (except destructive psychotic love, with which one loves itself and its fantasies and not the other person) can be wrong. Every love is right once it happens. 

Love is just a word until someone comes along and gives it its meaning.

I cannot pretend to know more about love than others and therefore by that justify my need to write so much about it. I can just write about what I think love is and inspire others to open eyes widely, for it comes in the most unexpected shapes and sizes. We often think that we must seek for a very long time to find the most beautiful things. We must seek, that is true, but seeking doesn't necessarily mean going across the seas, to different countries... What you are seeking for can sometimes be right in front of your eyes and you will miss it. 

“There are four questions of value in life... What is sacred? Of what is the spirit made? What is worth living for, and what is worth dying for? The answer to each is the same. Only love.” - Johnny Depp

If you are lucky enough to have love in your life, treasure it, keep it safe and unconditional, give without reservation and make it the most perfect imperfect thing in the world. There is no such thing as love on teaspoons. There are no calculations in love. And there surely aren't any guidance books about relationships, and there certainly aren't any about love. The only guidance you need is inside you.

It is scary to fall in love. There is one good quote I found that wraps up the core of our fear.

 “We say we love flowers, yet we pluck them. We say we love trees, yet we cut them down. And people still wonder why some are afraid when told they are loved.”

Love comes with the odds you'll get hurt. But as every good thing in life it comes with a risk. Once you will find that one person that will never break your heart.

If you have not yet found someone to love, even for a while, then just be patient. Love comes to those who believe in it. Trust me. That thing I know. :) Because, who are we without love? 

"Without love, what are we worth? Eighty-nine cents! Eighty-nine cents worth of chemicals walking around lonely." -Laurence Marks

Best things happen to us when we least expect them. Just like that, out of the blue. Great things are rarely planned... Unless they are a trip to Hawaii or Disneyland :) 

Other than that, once you are free of expectations, once you are open-minded and emotionally ready, your heart will find a way. "True lovers do not just meet somewhere, they exist in each other all along". Everybody deserves that special someone, and has that special someone somewhere in the world waiting to be found and to find... 

Finding that special someone starts from finding yourself. Once you figure out who do you want to be, what do you want to do and find a way to search for happiness inside of you rather than finding someone else to be your only source of positive energy, you will be ready to have someone of yours... for love isn't finding someone to carry you on the path of life, but to stand by you and hold your hand. 

Just believe and never stop searching. And just like that, you will find that cute pair of eyes, just for you, in which you feel you can melt ...Eyes, for which time stops.  Just believe.

All we need is love!

Unexpectedly, unbelievably fast, without any special warning, people fall in love. 

Shouldn't we have a special sign for such a thing?

 - Beware, slippery ground.  or -Dangerous terrain ahead !

Funny is how for the most important things in life we never receive a proper warning. I guess that's why they are so important. Because they come unexpectedly. 

Why am I writing this post? Actually, I am writing it for no specific reason. 

You don't have to spend hours of thinking to come to a conclusion that love is really all that we need. It creates a form of amnesia for any kind of worry. It erases all the things, big and small, that normally irritate us. 

Love is contagious. It spreads like a disease. 

Just like that you will find yourself loving and cherishing all the fleeting moments that usually pass by filled with anxiety, irritation, worries and all those negative emotions that we feel when we don't have love by our side. 

Love has a power to transform.

It will change bad into good faster than Harry Potter's wand. Seriously! It's funny how magically person starts having a different outlook on world. No therapy can do that so fast! I can bet on that one.

In my opinion *falling in love* it the only form of a free fall that keeps you floating above the ground. It's the only form of falling that includes flying. 

I believe that the pure sense of our existence is to love and be love. To find love. 

Here is one of my favorite quotes from the "Sex and the City" :

"Ridiculous, inconvenient, consuming, can't live without each other..."

If it comes in any other shape, for me - it is not love. It's the kind of insanity that inspires you so much that you never want to be normal again. 

I guess that the odds are very small that we will all get a chance to experience it. It takes faith and persistence, and above all - it takes an open heart, a will to look past the ordinary and seek for that crazy feeling that has inspired so many. 

Sometimes, extraordinary things come in disguise. They come unnoticed, they are easy to be neglected.. 

Sometimes the things we are searching for are right in front of our eyes and yet, we somehow miss them. See not with your eyes, but with your heart. With no prejudice. 

We can achieve so much...we can receive diplomas, awards, win championships, medals ... but success is nothing more than a worthless badge unless we have someone to share it with. 

Valentine's Day is approaching- so, it is high time to start believing in love if you have lost faith in it! ... although, to be honest, Valentine's Day is actually every single day for those who dare believe in love... they celebrate feelings every day. 

Every day is a good day to start loving someone.

Spread love people! ...for world is empty without it.

Everybody needs someone. And that someone is in your heart from the very beginning. All you need to do is listen...and one day- your fairy tale will come true. Just believe...

One of the mankind's greatest dilemmas: "To cheat or not to cheat?"

It would be rather peculiar if you haven’t, at least once in your life, thought about infidelity. You’d have to be either a sinless angel or a devil itself. It is in our nature to think about the forbidden fruits.


So, how should we define infidelity? Who deserves to be more condemned for infidelity and is cheating ever justified? When can we have an excuse for cheating? And who is guiltier: someone who has spent a careless passionate night with someone of whom one will never think again, or someone who spends every day with one person, but at the same time thinks of the other one? Is infidelity primarily physically or psychologically defined ?

Disney's movie Hercules. Megara 

Our thoughts on this topic surely link up with the very roots of our concepts of love and relationships. One person, who inspired me to start thinking more deeply about this topic, defined men as beings who are not monogamous. Therefore, it is their nature to have various partners and distinguish emotions from physical needs. In that person’s opinion polygamy is a natural state of being. My dilemma is this- if it is as such defined by nature, why is it a matter of society’s judgment? It should be quite clear that what is determined by nature and cannot be changed and controlled, cannot either be condemned. If it is a state of being, and not the state of mind and a matter of choice, then we must not judge to the ones who simply cannot control their impulses. Another question that has triggered my imagination was this one- If sex is an impulse, a need, isn't it justified to have options to fulfill that need in various ways? We tend to stigmatize one as extremely weird or odd if he , for instance, eats only spaghetti, watches only science fiction movies, listens to only one musician etc. So, how would we characterize a person who always sleeps with one person only, all the time? If sex is a need, isn’t it weird to satisfy it in a one way only? With one person only? The truth is, I have no clue. What we think is normal and sane is strictly the matter of our culture, the values that we have accepted and the knowledge we have acquired. And of course, and above all, it's the matter of our individual characteristics. 

Sex without love is an empty experience, but as empty experiences go, it's one of the best.-Woody Allen

I read this quote so long ago... I wrote it down, although I never liked it, because I never really thought it is true. But the last time I read it, it made me wonder: Have moralists invented love to justify their primitive sexual instincts? Or, is an intercourse as such only beautiful once there is love in the story? Those would be shallow questions of me to ask, since there are many examples which prove that love and sexual instincts can stand on their own individually. (this quote gives an obvious one) If love can exist without sex, and sex can exist without love, then why do people so often tend to bond these two?

Many relationships fall apart because of infidelity. So, it is almost natural to wonder what is the core of our inability to forgive cheating? Why do we judge to it so hard? I’d say that it because of our fear that to someone very important to us we are simply not ENOUGH. Our someone needs someone else as well. Whether we are going to forgive in the end, I believe depends on how easy it is for us to live without that "someone".

So, finally, which path are we supposed to choose? What are the right answers?  Careless games or patient persistence in waiting for the RIGHT person to come? Or both at the same time? Can the right one be the right one if he cheats? Do we really love someone if we dare to cheat? Does someone love us if he cheats on us? What are the true indicators of love? Can we truly ever measure it? And is our everything ever enough for somebody?

Endless questions. No clear answers. But I guess that's what makes relationships, love and above all, life, so complicated. Sometimes, some questions are meant to be left open.